4 Ways to Create an Amazing Life After Divorce

Do you think your divorce is the end of your life? Think again.

How often do you get a do-over in life? Your divorce experience can be just that. A magnificent do-over.  After all the pain and tremendous change that you’ve been through, would you choose to suffer it for not? Or do you want to materialize the best freaking life ever? You’re in the perfect position to change your direction, become who you truly are, and construct an authentic life.

Here are four ways to create an amazing life after your divorce:

1. Express Yourself Fully

What parts of yourself did you bury or leave unexpressed in your marriage? It’s common for married partners to lose their individuality over time. Now is the time to value your authenticity, and identify what that looks like in the world.  An amazing life after divorce includes the ability to be who you are fully and freely. It starts with learning to love yourself and becoming comfortable in your skin. After you rebuild your confidence and self-worth following divorce, you want to head in this direction, not back into the shell that created in your married life. This might be finding your voice, expressing your creativity, or getting out in the world and doing something uniquely meaningful to you. So learn to love and be who you truly are, and don’t be afraid to shine your brightness.

2. Make More Time for Meaningful Friendships

The recent findings from a 75-year Harvard study on happiness revealed that over our lifespan it is the meaningful, healthy connections that make us happiest in life. They bring us good health and longevity. Often during the marriage, we let go of our friendships. Take the time now to seek out healthy, quality connections. This will be your tribe – supportive, nonjudgmental and available. Connect with them over shared conversations and fun experiences together. The support you offer each other, and the bonds that you form will enhance your life beyond measure. Create your amazing circle of friends and make them relevant and a priority in your life.

3. Redesign a Life of Your Creation

Now that you have the bed all to yourself, why not tap into your unique energy and create an environment in your home that is all your own? Paint the walls with colors that sing to you, and make it a cozy, warm and welcoming environment to come back to. Is your career satisfying, or is there something you’ve meant to pursue that feels more purposeful? This do-over after divorce is about designing your life and making every inch meaningful and reflective of you. Spend time in every corner of your life and make it fabulously you!

4. Make Your Next Relationship a Healthy One

After the divorce, invest in the time to heal yourself and learn to be okay on your own. You won’t regret it, and you’ll be choosing a partner from a much healthier place. When and if the time comes to finding that next significant relationship, decide you will settle for nothing less than one that uplifts and enhances your life. Operating from an emotionally healthy perspective will allow you to choose a partner from want rather than need. You’ll have changed and grown so much, and hopefully, will have learned a lot from the lessons of your marriage.

You can create an amazing life after your divorce. Learning valuable lessons from your past and having the awareness to avoid falling into old patterns is essential. Divorce can be a rebirth into a fulfilling and joyous life.