The Gifts of Divorce: A Workbook for Healing and Self-Discovery

Illustration by Joan Perrin-Falquet

You Are a Fighter

For all that is true and meaningful. For your newfound clarity. For your values and principles. For your self-respect and reclaimed soul. As you fight for the ability to accept and let go, you celebrate the freedom to live an authentic life. You are a fighter.  

~ Jamie Daniel, The Gifts of Divorce

Divorce is one of the most painful experiences one can go through, second only to the loss of a spouse or child.

Incredible growth happens during the most painful of circumstances. As Glennon Doyle Melton beautifully said, “pain is holy.”  Your pain is the fertile soil that your tears water to create beautiful, personal growth. Your life and this experience can help you blossom into feeling comfortable and more at home in your skin.

During my 27-year marriage, my sense of self-worth took a huge hit. Looking back, I think it started in childhood, but it continued to be reinforced in my marriage based on the relationship I chose at the time. It made sense that when I found myself getting divorced, the curtain came down and I was made to realize how truly low my self-worth was. It was rock bottom, and I was reminded in a myriad of ways.  I wondered, how was I so resilient as a wife and mother all those years, when deep down I thought so little of myself?

Divorce can be the equivalent of meeting yourself for the first time.

It sounds strange, doesn’t it? If your self-worth wasn’t very high for most of your life, it might have been that helping others was a way to feel better about yourself, so you focused your time and energy there. You identified yourself wholly based on who you were to others, and how well you did your job. You might not have spent much time thinking about yourself, nor reflecting on your hopes and dreams.

The road of divorce recovery that I traveled required self-discovery and the rebuilding of my self-worth and confidence. This began with hours and hours of self-reflection and the reading of positive affirmations. I felt lost. I had to learn who I truly was and begin to challenge and reframe my old core beliefs about myself. I soon discovered I was so much more than all those negative thoughts that resided in my head for many years.

The Gifts of Divorce was a labor of love.

It was written expressly for women traveling the journey of divorce recovery. My goal is to help you find your inner wisdom and knowing through 15 written affirmations and the self-reflection pages that follow. If you work through these pages, you will begin to find your lost self. Meeting her and discovering who she truly is will increase your confidence and self-worth. You will be more self-assured about your future and your ability to manifest a beautiful life post-divorce.

Brave Hearts. Honor Your Courage. Honor Your Knowing.