Why Highly Successful People Struggle With Low Self-Worth (and How You Can Reclaim Your Self-Worth)

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Why Highly Successful People Struggle With Low Self-Worth

(and How You Can Reclaim Your Self-Worth)

 

Highly successful people don’t always get there on true grit alone. There can be an underlying force beneath the surface.

Highly successful people might be the last individuals you would expect to suffer from low self-esteem. Many celebrities, CEOs, all-star athletes, and politicians suffer from low self-esteem or did at one point in their lives. When you look at their accomplishments, high income and prestige, you might imagine that to get that far they must have had an abundance of self-confidence.

Self-esteem isn’t a prerequisite for success

It’s not necessarily the case. Make no mistake about it; they’re hard-working, motivated and driven people. They seem to possess the smarts, talents, and skills to get to the top. What we don’t see is that many started out with doubts, insecurities, and feeling unworthy; born from a troubled childhood. That self-doubt played a significant role on their road to success.

Just Be Real, a personal development blog, published a post,  7 Celebrities Who Started Out with Poor Self-Esteem, which highlights the experiences of several highly successful and famous people and their struggle with low self-esteem. Featured are Oprah Winfrey, John Lennon, Hillary Swank, Russell Brand and Marilyn Monroe. Marilyn Monroe, for example, moved around a lot as a child. She had many foster parents, and a mentally unstable mother and father. The post explains that although she suffered from low self-esteem, Monroe went on to achieve amazing things in her life as a model and actress.

How does low self-esteem contribute to success?

Low self-esteem can be a powerfully motivating factor behind a person’s drive to succeed. Particularly relevant is the fact that a person with low self-esteem is continually striving to prove their worthiness, accomplishing one thing after the next. Individuals with low self-esteem have a deep-seated and faulty belief that a person’s value is based on their achievements and these five myths about self-worth.

(Photograph by Juan Ramos)

 

5 myths about self-worth

Self-worth is based on your ability to earn it.  It’s what you do that determines your worthiness, and you have to work hard to get it. If you’re not working hard and achieving, there’s no reason to feel good about yourself.

Self-worth is the result of external events. It’s derived from external events in your life such as good grades, degrees, promotions, praise, recognition, awards and lofty job titles. You strive to achieve to fulfill the need to feel better about yourself.

Self-worth is the result of being better than everyone else. You compete with others and have to be doing better than everyone else. It’s difficult for you to celebrate the success of others as it reminds you of your need to be one step ahead. You have to shine.

Feeling good about yourself requires consistent proof. When the glow of one accomplishment begins to dim, you are revisited by your quiet insecurity. You seek some form of recognition to prove that you indeed are worthy. This quest feeds into a tenacity to succeed because you alone are never enough.

Self-worth requires feeling admired and loved. Love, adoration or approval from others enhances your feelings of worthiness. If you love and adore me, I must be worthy. (Photograph by Alexander Solodukhin)

While low self-esteem can be a catalyst for success, it can also come at a high personal cost. It can spiral you down into feelings of anxiety and depression. If you are doing well on the outside but suffering on the inside, it’s important to recognize these five truths about self-worth.

 

5 truths about self-worth

• You don’t have to prove your worthiness. YES, it’s a myth that you must earn your worthiness. The fact is that you were born worthy.
• External measures do not add or take away from your worthiness. If you are born worthy, successes and failures don’t add to or detract from your inherent worthiness.
• Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time and energy. You don’t have to prove your worth. It’s already there.
• YOU are enough just as you are. Right here. Right now.
• A mental health professional can help.Working to improve your self-worth can sometimes require the help of a professional. It’s a valuable investment for this life changing benefit.

Success can never cure low self-worth

In conclusion, sometimes the things you end up struggling with the most can turn out to be helpful in ways you would never expect. Setting goals and wanting to achieve success in life is admirable. Take care, though, that you don’t use it as a  measure of your self-worth. To live a happy and content life, you must learn how to recognize and embrace your worthiness regardless of what you accomplish.