Modern love & Relationships
5 Ways to Exercise Self-Compassion in The Wake of Divorce
"For some reason, we are truly convinced that if we criticize ourselves, the criticism will lead to change. If we are harsh, we believe we will end up being kind. If we shame ourselves, we believe we end up loving ourselves. It has never been true, not for a moment,...
Coping with Divorce: The Value of Mindfulness Practices
"Mindfulness isn't about getting anywhere else." ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn While in the middle of my divorce mediation, my mind was full of noise. My ability to be present for any of the detail seemed to evade me. Sitting at the mediator's office with my estranged...
The Role of Anger in Divorce Recovery
Photograph by Tanya Heffner "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." ~ Buddha Anger is an interesting emotion. The message in our society is that it should be tempered, extinguished and everyone should learn to control it....
3 Profound Freedoms for a Survivor of Emotional Abuse
Healing from an emotionally abusive marriage is a journey taken with faith and courage.
Father’s Day: A Single Dad’s Story
ONE MAN'S STORY Late one evening, seated on the floor of his children's bedroom with tears in his eyes, he knew his marriage was over. The reality of how that might impact his life and that of his children was an intolerable thought. His kids, ages 6 and 4, lay...
The 3 Pivotal First Years After Divorce
"The knowledge of the past stays with us. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and the fears, the clinging and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit." ~ Jack Kornfield It's hard to fully understand the emotional process of separation...
Divorce Recovery: 3 Ways to Develop Self-Compassion
Photograph by Jenn Richardson "Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn't know before you learned it." ~ Unknown Have you made a mistake or acted less than perfect, and then noticed the voice in your head become loud, blaming and punishing? Meet your inner...
4 Ways Divorce Impacts the Nuclear Family
Photograph provided by Stocksnap “Other things may change us, but we start and end with the family.” ~Anthony Brandt The impact of divorce on the nuclear family is something you might consider while in the process, but cannot fully understand until you are a few years...
8 Healing Practices to Help You Recover From Divorce
“The knowledge of the past stays with us. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clinging and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.” ~ Jack Kornfield The stages of divorce recovery are similar to all who experience it...
Divorce and Identity Crisis
“And the lost heart stiffens and rejoices in the lost lilac and the lost sea voices, and the weak spirit quickens to rebel for the bent golden-rod and the lost sea smell.” ~ T.S. Eliot Looking for Mooring Lines Two months had passed since my estranged husband moved...